
Why Spirituality (Not Religion) Is the Missing Piece in Trauma Recovery
- Updated: May 19, 2025
If you’re trying to heal from deep trauma, addiction, or emotional burnout, it’s tempting to think you can logic your way out of it. Talk therapy, journaling, supportive people—they all help. But if you’re anything like me, at some point, it stops being enough.
For years, I believed I didn’t need God in my healing journey. How could I? My earliest associations with God were tangled up in abuse—from a mother who weaponized scripture to men who harmed me while quoting spiritual platitudes. It felt safer to replace God with self-talk and survival strategies than to trust anything sacred again.
But eventually, all my coping mechanisms—no matter how smart or polished—couldn’t reach the deepest part of me. The part that needed more than logic. The part that was still haunted, angry, and disconnected.
This isn’t a call to find religion. It’s an invitation to explore spirituality on your own terms—especially if it’s something you’ve tried to avoid. For me, that exploration eventually led to Christianity—not the dogma, but the restoration. The quiet clarity that reminded me I wasn’t crazy, I wasn’t abandoned, and I wasn’t too broken to reconnect.
If you’ve ever felt like God was part of the betrayal—or like you had to become your own higher power just to survive—this post is for you.
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Healing Isn’t Just Mental—It’s Soul Work Too

Body, Mind & Soul: The Three-Part Framework of Spiritual Recovery
To truly heal, you have to see yourself as more than just a thinking brain or a hurting body. You are a whole being—body, mind, and soul—each part carrying its own memory, its own pain, and its own potential for healing.
Your body is where trauma first lands. It holds tension, stores pain, and reacts to danger even when danger is long gone.
Your mind is where beliefs form—about yourself, others, and the world. It tries to make sense of what happened, but it can also replay the pain, over and over.
Your soul is the part of you that connects to something beyond logic or survival. It’s where your longing lives. Your sense of meaning. Your intuition. Your belonging.
When trauma hits, these parts split. You might feel numb in your body. Lost in your thoughts. Disconnected from anything sacred or steady.
Healing is not just about “fixing” a single part—it’s about reunion. Integration.
It’s about remembering who you are beneath what happened.
Why Energy Matters in Trauma Healing
Trauma doesn’t just change your thoughts—it shifts your energy. You can walk into a room and feel unsafe without knowing why. Or sabotage something good because deep down, you expect it to go wrong.
That’s not weakness. That’s energy doing what it was trained to do.
Everything you carry—your grief, your fears, your survival strategies—emits a frequency.
And here’s the hard truth: pain attracts pain if we don’t interrupt the cycle.
If you’ve found yourself repeating the same patterns—relationships, addictions, overwork, self-erasure—it’s likely because your energy has been tuned to chaos. Not consciously. But historically. Spiritually.
The good news? You can recalibrate.
Healing your energy isn’t just about “positive thinking.” It’s about alignment. Integrity. And restoring your connection to something greater than your trauma.
The Role of a Higher Power in Recovery
After trauma, trust often dies—especially trust in anything invisible. It’s hard to believe in a loving God or Higher Power when you feel like you were left to suffer.
I get that. I lived there for years.
I tried to white-knuckle my healing with therapy, routines, self-help books, and logic. But at my lowest, none of that could reach the part of me that was still screaming inside.
That’s where spirituality came in—not as a band-aid, but as a lifeline.
In recovery communities like AA and SA, there’s a powerful truth baked into the 12 steps:
“Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.”
It’s humbling. And freeing. Because if you could fix it all on your own, you would’ve done it already.
This isn’t about giving up your power. It’s about giving your pain somewhere safe to land.
Letting something bigger than you—whether that’s God, Love, Grace, or simply a deeper wisdom—help you heal the parts logic never could.
Spirituality vs Religion: Knowing the Difference
Let’s be honest: for many of us, religion wasn’t healing. It was harm wrapped in ritual.
I was forced to read scripture by someone who abused me. For years, I couldn’t separate the idea of God from the cruelty I lived through.
I confused control with devotion. Shame with holiness. Abuse with obedience.
But over time, I realized:
That wasn’t God. That was manipulation dressed up in sacred language.
Spirituality is not religion.
It doesn’t require a building, a label, or a performance.
True spirituality is spacious. Personal. Honest. It invites your anger, your doubt, and your resistance—not to scold you, but to heal with you.
So if you’ve been burned by religion and find yourself spiritually homeless—I get it.
This post isn’t about pushing a doctrine. It’s about making space for you to rebuild what was stolen or distorted—on your terms.
You are a spirit trapped in a physical body, but you emanate energy that can either attract or repel certain forces.
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When Faith Has Been Weaponized—And You Still Want to Heal
Let’s talk about something most people won’t say out loud:
It’s hard to trust anything sacred when it was used to hurt you.
If you grew up with spiritual language twisted into control…
“God” was used to silence you or scare you…
Religion was handed to you like a leash instead of a lifeline…
Then it makes sense that you’d want nothing to do with it.

I lived in that tension for years.
I wanted peace—but the idea of praying made me feel sick.
Wanting to feel protected—but couldn’t imagine surrendering to anything I couldn’t control.
Tried to replace God with people, routines, even self-talk. But none of it held me.
Here’s what I’ve learned since:
Rejecting abuse is not the same as rejecting God.
You can walk away from spiritual distortion and still walk toward the sacred.
You can rebuild trust with what’s holy—even if you’re still angry, skeptical, or unsure.
For me, that rebuilding happened slowly.
It looked like crying while reading scripture—not because I “believed,” but because I wanted to.
I decided to ask the hard questions—and refusing easy answers.
Then I realized that God was not the one who hurt me. People did.
And I get to stop letting them define my connection to the divine.
Spiritual healing isn’t linear.
Some days you’ll feel cynical. Some days you’ll feel held.
But either way—you’re allowed to keep reaching.
You’re allowed to reclaim what’s been misrepresented.
You’re allowed to make peace with your soul—on your terms, not theirs.
Lots of people have abandoned soul-cleansing work because they associate it with the people who distorted spiritual ideas.
— Denise Lee (@DeniseGLee) July 30, 2023
Zealots and hypocrites distort face from fiction.
Please, separate the behavior of fallible people from the truth which will heal your soul. https://t.co/d1RcjZqS6g
How to Start Exploring Your Own Spiritual Path
You don’t have to rush into faith.
You don’t have to claim a label, join a group, or perform your healing out loud.
But if something inside of you is whispering, “There has to be more than this,”
—then you’re already on the path.
Spirituality begins when you start listening.

Not to rules.
But to what resonates.
Ask yourself:
Where have I experienced awe lately?
What moments have softened me—without needing explanation?
What kind of teachings or truths have stayed with me long after I heard them?
This isn’t about being “right.”
It’s about noticing what feels real.
For me, the path eventually led to Christianity—but not the rigid version I grew up with. It was the kind that made space for my grief, my story, and my slow rebuilding. The kind where I didn’t have to pretend or perform.
Your path might look different. That’s okay.
Maybe it starts in silence.
Maybe it’s a verse. Or a walk. Or the way your body finally exhales when you stop trying to figure everything out.
Let that be enough.
The goal isn’t to arrive.
The goal is to reconnect—to something bigger than the pain that shaped you.
Start where you are. That’s sacred, too.
If You’re Unsure About Spirituality, You’re Not Alone
Do I have to believe in God to benefit from spirituality?
Not at all. Spirituality is about reconnecting with something greater—whatever that looks like for you. For some, that’s God. For others, it’s nature, inner wisdom, or simply a sense of peace. You get to decide what resonates.
What if I still feel angry or numb toward anything spiritual?
That’s valid. Anger, numbness, even avoidance are often signs of deep wounding. You don’t have to rush your healing. The point isn’t to force belief—it’s to honor your process and stay open to what might feel different over time.
Can I still explore this if I’ve walked away from religion?
Absolutely. In fact, many people reconnect with spirituality after walking away from rigid or harmful religious systems. Leaving what hurt you is often the first step toward reclaiming what can actually help you heal.
This Is Your Invitation to Begin Again
You don’t have to rush toward belief.
You don’t need to fix your relationship with faith overnight.
But if something in you feels drawn to revisit what you once avoided—that’s worth honoring.
This journey is about rebuilding trust with yourself, with the sacred, and with the truth that healing isn’t just about what you think—it’s about what your soul knows you need.
Start gently.
Privately.
Wherever you are.
Because your restoration doesn’t need permission.
It just needs space.
Ready to explore what healing could look like with honest support and zero spiritual performance?
Work with me one-on-one and let’s walk this path together.
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