You’re Not Alone: Help and Support for Facing Life’s Challenges
Feeling a bit overwhelmed? I get it! Life can get messy at times.
My job as a life coach is to help you simplify the complicated and confusing parts of your life. In this article, we will talk about how to find the right help so that you can escape your current problems or perhaps avoid new ones in the future.
Before we discuss tools and resources that may help you, let’s address a common misconception.
You deserve a problem-free life
First of all, it is a myth that all eight billion (and counting) of us here on planet Earth are all healthy, wealthy and living problem-free. All of us are dealing with different issues that push us to the brink, challenge our reality and force us to examine things that we really, really wish could just go away.
Furthermore, if your life is problem-free, how or where can you learn more about yourself and others? The key to a satisfying life is finding creative solutions to the most daunting situations. It is through the unknown and frightening experiences that build our confidence and strengthen our resilience to obstacles that come our way.
To illustrate this point, I would like to give you instructions for safely entering or exiting a parking garage. As I explain this story, I want you to see the main message of your own strength, capacity for change, and ability to overcome and succeed.
Seeking safety while in a dangerous situation
In the event that we find ourselves alone in a parking garage, away from other people and sense some sort of danger, our tendency may be to run deeper into the darkness, towards somewhere we believe we can hide.
However, the reality is that we should not hide, but rather, run towards a public place filled with people. We can retreat towards the lobby or go into a well-lit and visible area. In other words, we must learn to run towards safety.
Moreover, if you feel as it is not safe to journey towards your vehicle, ask if someone can accompany you. It can be a security guard, friend or anyone nearby. Rarely, if ever, would some would deny assisting someone who sincerely asked for help.
While I am on this subject, here are some other parking lot safety tips.
Despite having access to various tips and resources, some of us still hesitate to ask for help. Why is that? In the next section, we will discuss the reasons behind it.
Why do we humans resist help?
Why do we avoid asking for help? Simple. We want things done on our terms and on our own way.
Moreover, it is natural to be distrustful. We as humans we tend to have a negativity bias, meaning that we tend to avoid or deny foreign or unknown ideas.
Sometimes our egos get in the way of our plans. We fear any change, even if it is positive.
Seeking help for many years was a foreign idea to me. To be honest, most of my own crisis and conflicts were by my own design. I have learned over the years taking advice from other is the ultimate life-hack.
Are you resistance to help? It is okay to admit it. We can start being vulnerable and ask for help.
No matter how hard we try to convince ourself otherwise, our solution or perhaps part of the remedy is actually within our grasp. It is not something that is far fetched, elusive or hard to obtain solution.
While I am getting help, what else can I do?
If you are feeling sad or disheartened, I got a couple of questions which may help you. As you answer them, reflect on your capabilities and strengths.
- Why are you capable of resolving this?
- Why do your talents and gifts matter?
- Have you overcome a similar situation in the past?
- What did you learn about yourself in the process?
- Which self-esteem tools do you need to deploy so you can feel good?
Keep reminding yourself of the positive. Yes, you are more than capable to resolve even the most daunting obstacle.
Important: Confidence in yourself helps other people feel safe around you. Working on your inner confidence is just one part of the solution to solving your difficult life challenges.
I may not have a remedy to your specific problem but at least I can provide you a different perspective so that you may not feel as challenged with your current situation.
In the meanwhile, do not be discouraged. Everything is happening for you, not to you. I believe that you have the ability to overcome your current obstacles.
Also, if you need help from a coach who specializes traumas and addictions, don’t hesitate to consider working with me. I am here to support you.
DISCLAIMER: THIS ARTICLE DOES NOT PROVIDE MENTAL HEALTH ADVICE
The information in this article is for informational purposes only. No material in this article or website is to be a substitute for professional medical and/or mental health advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment and before undertaking a new health care regimen, and never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you read from me or anyone else online.
Also, this article is not designed to diagnose or treat you or anyone with a suspected mental health illness. Please, if you need help, seek appropriate help from a lawyer, health care provider or law enforcement officer.