13 Proven Tips to Improve Your Confidence

As a leader, it is important to feel confident about yourself and your abilities. People look to you for inspiration, hope and guidance. Here are 13 proven tips to improve your confidence.

  • Package yourself for success. 

When you look the part, you’ll carry yourself with more confidence. Dressing for success does not have to be complicated nor expensive. It can be as simple as wearing a favorite article of clothing, jewelry or cologne. Whatever it is, make sure you dress yourself in a way that makes you feel good. When you feel good about yourself, you will release positive energy and confidence out into the world. 

My favorite “feel good strategy” is to wear cologne and a favorite piece of jewelry. It gives me a little pick me up, especially during the days I feel sluggish. Wear something that reminds you of a special event or gives you a good feeling. Trust me – it will help you feel more confident throughout the day.

  • Focus on the future.

Thinking about the past will get you NOWHERE. All of us have made mistakes and blunders along the journey in business. I will never forget spending thousands of dollars in 2012 in a failed marketing campaign. Each mess that you made is a message for someone else to hear. Focus on all the bright and wonderful things that are ahead, not behind you. 

  • Embrace Positivity.

Scientists have studied the muscles needed for both facial expressions, and to do a small smile generally uses 10 muscles; a small frown uses 6. On average, a smile uses 12 and a frown 11. However, since humans tend to smile a lot, these muscles are stronger. A frown may be slightly more effort to produce. So, from a physical perspective – being negative is hard on the body. Your mind and is not wired to feel depressed. Make an effort to feel more positive! 

Resist the urge to feel depressed, angry, anxious, jealous or any toxic energy. Take the time to love who you are, your business journey and the next phase of your life. 

  • Let Go of Small Mistakes.

This is similar to the example of “Focus on the Future.” Letting go of the small mistakes is recognizing that you are human and that you are not perfect. Focusing on prior mistakes prevents your mind from focusing on the bigger possibilities. Confident people learn from each mistake and move on. 

  • Ignore the Haters

I think a lot of people absorb the toxic attitudes of negative people and internalize those feelings. And it is easy to think, “well such and such person did not like me, therefore I am not worthy.”

Most likely those Negative Nancies or Neds have a lot of internal conflict and do not want to see others succeed. Feeling confident means that you do not let the negative attitude of others occupy too much (or any) space in your mind.

  • Schedule Time to Play.

Working on your business 24 hours a day, 7 days a week will drive you insane and can cause burnout. Find fun activities that you enjoy and can share with others. Besides, after you schedule time to play, you are more likely to have more creative ideas.

  • Continue to Grow and Improve.

Always study. Always learn. I always teach my private clients I am teaching them the basics, but it is up to them to learn and apply them in their lives. It does not always have to be about business. For example, I am always in the process of learning to improve my Spanish speaking skills. Find something (outside of your business) to learn.

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  • Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

You are uniquely and beautifully made just the way you are. Your calling is unique and is different from another person. Your focus should be on building up your skills. Every time you focus more on someone else, you are ignoring your unique path.

Stay focused.

Your unique destiny is designed for you and you alone.

  • Seek Validation from Within

You may not know this already, but people, especially customers, are EXTREMELY fickle. One day, they will love you and then next day, they may not. As a business owner, it is important to get your sense of self worth and value from within. Do not look to anyone to make you feel good about yourself and your value as a business person. 

  • Face Your Fears

When we ignore or try to avoid our fears, we are letting our anxieties overpower us. And often times, the fear is much more powerful and stronger than the actual fear. Next time you are facing a fear, write down consequences of each possibility. Write down what could happen. How can you fix the problem if it happened? How can you work to make sure it does not become an issue in the future? Preparing yourself and giving yourself knowledge is the best defense against fear. 

  • Visualize Your Success

Sometimes I visualize standing on a large stage, talking to a large group of people. That is my larger goal – to help motivate and encourage people in a larger platform. What is your goal? What is your vision for success? Write it down. Refer to it often, especially times when you feel stressed. They will give you the courage to persevere when times are hard. 

  • Celebrate Small Wins/Count Your Accomplishments

Did you recently close a contract or hit a sales goal? Go ahead and give yourself a pat on the back. Tell someone about it! Toot your own horn. There is nothing wrong or selfish about feeling good about your accomplishments. Maybe this month, you found a way to save $400 for a business item. Whatever it is, write them down and think be proud of yourself. Always think about ways to remind yourself of your abilities. 

  • Set Small Goals 

My biggest competitor is myself. I am always trying to do things better and smarter than before. Setting goals help challenge me to perform better and faster. Be careful. The biggest critic we will ever have is ourselves. Make sure your inner criticism is rooted in reality. If you need assistance, let’s work together and make some new business goals!


Do you have another tip to improve confidence that I did not mention earlier? Please let me know in the comment section below.

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